The stories we tell ourselves matter. If we say “I’ve tried everything”, we tend to stop searching for new ways. We stop trying new strategies. We have convinced ourselves there is nothing left to try.
The same goes for when we say “nothing works”. When we believe that nothing works, we give up trying. What’s the point if it’s not going to work anyway?
“No matter what I do, my child doesn’t change.” Yep, that’s another one. Another reason to not seek out new ways, to not try different strategies.
But here’s the deal…those “I’ve tried everything”, “Nothing works”, and “No matter what I do, my child doesn’t change” are not realities. They are not truths.
It’s time to change those statements. Time to start to speak truth, start seeing things clearly.
Next time you hear yourself saying or thinking those, STOP. Reframe. Reword.
There is MORE I can try. There are new options, other possibilities. New strategies. Different tools.
I AM going to find something that works. It may not be this, but I will keep searching. I will keep trying because my child deserves that. My family deserves that. I deserve that.
My child IS getting better. Maybe not as fast as I would like. May not always be easy to see. And yes, there will be steps backwards. But my child is making progress and will continue to do so as long as I keep trying and keep holding onto hope.
Your story matters. Your words matter. Your belief matters. Your hope matters.