When life gets challenging, many find themselves looking backwards and hanging on to the way things used to be. Wanting now to be like then. Stuck in the mindset that this hurdle they are facing makes their now BAD or HARD and that before it was all EASY and HAPPY.
Well, for lots of families life holds a lot of happy, but also many many challenges. Every day, every month, you are faced with struggle and sadness - financial, relationship, sickness, grief, loss, job, and many others. And at the time these struggles pose challenges that take great fortitude and commitment to overcome. As a matter of fact, many times you don't know how you will make it through.
Your BEFORE wasn't always that EASY or PERFECT. As you face the challenge of today, don't fool yourselves into believing looking backwards is the BEST CHOICE. It's time to turn around and move onward, in the direction of the future.
Looking forward, deciding what you have the control to change and making a plan to meet your new normal is how you make it through the tough times. It is how you get UNSTUCK. You need to start concentrating on making the future into the life you want.
It is time to start embracing the now and making it doable! Equipping yourself to manage the challenges rather than being in denial that they exist or that you have nothing to say over the matter. Yes, you might have to make some changes, you might have to do things differently and you may have to learn some new tools, but this is your life and the reality is that you are responsible for your own happiness.
Find someone that gets it and soak in what they have to share. Be open to learning and using new tools that work specifically for your challenge. Plant the seeds of what you want your tomorrow to be. Speak positively about your now. Visualize what tomorrow could be and move towards that!
You are right; your life is not what it was before...but before wasn't perfect either. Don't waste one more minute on looking backward; it is time to make NOW count!