If you are worried about the upcoming holidays, even a little bit, we need to talk. Umm yes, lots of families really struggle when they are "supposed" to be celebrating - you are not alone in that. It is NOT pretty. And the reality is, it can become one of the most difficult challenges on this journey.
I come from a big Irish family and being together for every holiday was just how we did it. I LOVED it. I looked forward to sharing our traditions, recalling moments from the past and making more good memories. Honestly, I couldn't wait to bring my children into this world. Along with that, it was really my goal to create that feeling of comfort and joy within my own little family too. Well, it was really taking place as each of our boys were born. As a matter of fact, I can even say that it was just plain EASY. However, it was far from easy when it came to the girls. Long story short...this is where the NOT PRETTY part starts. I knew it wasn't going to be perfect and that there would be some challenges, but I had no idea that what brought me such pleasure my entire life could be turned into something I began to truly dread. Between the hard words and behavior of our children (usually only in our home and not in front of others), the judgemental feeling stares, comments, and unsolicited advice from family members, and the exhaustion and disappointment in not feeling like a good Mom, our life was turned upside down. It had come down to, figure it out or be miserable! I had a hunch and I followed it. Over and over again I started putting in place new ways of meeting the girls where they were at. I found I didn't have to give up my hopes and dreams for my family when it came to the holidays; I just had to tweak things to help them manage better. You can do it too. I have spent years testing this out, adjusting, focusing in on all the "places" we can be intentional about when it comes to celebrations. Less acting out, fewer tantrums & meltdowns, and an overall calm. There is SO much we can do to help our kids experience it all the way we did and the way we hoped they could. The holidays are really a time when we experience the ultimate feeling of belonging - what a gift to give our children. I am so excited to tell you that it can be done. And it can begin now, this year! In my upcoming LIVE webinar, I will give you a step by step plan that will help you put the tweaks in place that will create an experience that your child can manage and even enjoy. One in which he can be successful, feel worthy of all of the goodness and gain the gift of understanding that he belongs too! Here's the thing though, the holidays are just around the corner so we need to do this soon. The doors are closing in just a week so...Get Your Spot NOW! (just click on the link below for more info) http://www.tohavehope.com/surviving-the-holidays.html Can't be there live? Don't worry, you get the recording and a second live session in December to ask your questions! See you in class!
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