have been thinking about you lately...yes, I do know you. Well, I do know the challenges you are facing! I have been there.
Some Challenges: Trying to love someone who has a hard time receiving it. Feeling disconnected from your child. Not sure how to advocate for your child any more. Sad from watching your child struggle. Wondering if anything you are doing is even working. Questioning your ability, desire, and feelings. Being emotionally exhausted all of the time. Being physically exhausted a lot of the time. Feeling judged and/or misunderstood. Stress on your marriage. Chaos affecting your whole family. Losing you. And so much more. See, I do get it. I have been there. The great news is YOU don't have to be there for one more minute! Unlike me, you DO have a CHOICE. It's up to you, you can shift things so that your challenges don't define your life. So they don't define your child's happiness, your happiness or your whole family's happiness. I know it might seem impossible, but I am on the other side and I want to show you how to get there too. There's one thing I know for sure...Life CAN absolutely be more peaceful, more happy, and so much closer to where you want it to be. It isn't always easy to look forward and see a plan for how to get where you want to be. This journey we are on can be tough and cause us to lose our way. It can cause us to lose hope for a better future. I totally get it and that's why I am here! I believe we are in this together and I want to help you create a detailed action plan that will make it easier for you to see and acquire the 2017 you want for your family! How? I want to personally invite YOU to join my Intentional Parent Coaching Group where we will work together a minimum of 3 times a month to get you where you want to be. This is the shift you have been waiting for. A customized plan for YOUR family will make all of the difference. You will learn effective ways to handle any challenge you are hitting...in the moment how to's and what to say's that will give you confidence and create those moments and experiences that work to decrease challenging behavior and increase healthier relationships. No more doing this alone! You will be part of a group of parents who are digging deep, who support one another, who TRULY understand what it means to stay in it no matter what. Yes it is hard, but together we are so much stronger! Working with a mentor who has BEEN THERE is invaluable. I have lived your journey and have worked with thousands of families over the last 12 years. It is my passion and commitment to support your family to THRIVE! Members receive: -a monthly training -an opportunity for us to work together 3 times a month in our closed Facebook group -a 24/7 place to get support from other parents that get it. -tools and techniques that work -bonus training videos, 5 minute tweak tools, and much more *ALSO as a member you have access to the vault that contains 6 of my top selling classes and multiple monthly Coaching Group trainings and q&a's. **BIG BONUS - members also get a FREE registration to my next life-changing class HOW TO MAP OUT A HAPPY 2017 FOR YOUR FAMILY NOW is the time to look forward and TAKE THE LEAP to make it the year you want it to be! Let's do it together...click the link for more information and to get registered. http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-coaching-group.html I cannot wait to see you in group! Stacy Manning
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Last weekend, my daughter was having a flashback movie marathon. You know the kind, where you watch all your favorites. The oldies, but goodies. She was strolling down memory lane, reminiscing about her childhood. (Thankfully she was remembering the bright spots and not remembering the oh so challenging times).
Popcorn and the “classics” – The Little Mermaid, The Wizard of Oz, and High School Musical. It wasn’t long before I had my own flashback and once again those High School Musical songs were stuck in my head. All. Day. Long. Start of Something New. Getcha’ Head in the Game. And of course, We’re All in This Together. And naturally We're All in This Together got me thinking of you. Thinking of this parenting journey. Thinking of this tribe, this community, this group of amazing Intentional Parents. Yes, this journey can be challenging for sure. Behaviors. Tantrums. Doing things differently. Lack of understanding and support from those not on our journey. Making mistakes. Cleaning up messes. Parenting UPSTREAM. But, here’s the GREAT NEWS…We’re all in this together! Cheering each other on. Supporting along the way. Propping one another up when the going gets extra tough. Drawing strength from one another. Together. We are all in this together! Stacy Manning P.S. Make the new year your best year yet! Don't miss my next class How to Map Out a Happy 2017 For Your Family! A step-by- step guide to creating the shift you are looking for. FREE to Intentional Parent Coaching Group members! Join TODAY for your child, for you and for your whole family! http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-coaching-group1.html As a member, you also have access to my 6 top selling classes for FREE and 2 months of archived Intentional Parent Coaching Group video-trainings and Q&A's. Have you done the math? In 25 days, a new year will begin. It is so exciting...I mean it is pretty much the ultimate FRESH START! A new year, a clean slate. Yes, we use what we learned in 2016, but we can choose to leave the ugly behind. Look forward. Lay new foundations. Full of renewed energy. Armed with new insights. A new path. Happy. Powerful. Connected. It is SO SO exciting!
YES, YES, YES it can be done! I totally understand the doubt you're having right now. I have been there, but the truth I found is that your life CAN be different. Life can be positive. Your family can be happy while you are facing the impacts of your child's trauma and loss - even the really, really hard stuff. This journey IS very hard at times, but it doesn't have to define your every day. Here's the thing, NOW is the time to get your ducks in a row so that your life can experience the shift you are looking for. The NEW YEAR is YOUR clean slate. Achieve your family goals. Re-enforce the foundation. Follow an Intentional Action Plan to be ahead of any challenges. Tools and techniques that REALLY work. A parenting and personal focus on positive forward progress. Surrounded by people who back you up and get you. And SO MUCH MORE! Your life, YOUR way in 2017! There's nothing I am more sure about than the fact that starting fresh as often as possible causes FORWARD, POSITIVE motion. You, your child, and your whole family deserves to THRIVE! I want to help you take the opportunity of this clean slate to start fresh. My new class, How To Map Out A Happy 2017 for Your Family, will give you a step by step action plan that works! NOW is the time, my friend. I am with you. Let go of the past and take hold of the new...let's make this happen! I am offering FREE access to this class to members of my Intentional Parent Coaching Group. I have NO DOUBT that the combination of working with me 3 times a month, being surrounded by others that get it, and putting in place your 2017 Action Plan will absolutely turn things upside down...in a GOOD way! Join me on Thursday, December 29th at 7pm to GET STARTED! Can't be their live? DON'T LET THAT STOP YOU because you get the recording! You also get 3 times a month to check in with me as you look forward, work to build a strong foundation, and put in place those tools and techniques that work! Like I said...we are in this together. YOUR FRESH START IS HERE! Grab it and create YOUR 2017! Click the link~ http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-coaching-group1.html As a member, you also have access to my 6 top selling classes for FREE and 2 months of archived Intentional Parent Coaching Group video-trainings and Q&A's. Your family's success is VERY important to me so I am making sure you have it ALL! Here's to a HAPPY 2017! Excited to see you in the Coaching Group, Stacy Manning What started out as a STRONG partnership, an “in the good times and in the bad” commitment, can certainly be put to the test once kids are in the picture. Parenting can take a toll on marriage.
At the end of the day, we can be too exhausted to think about investing in someone else. But here’s the deal…connecting with your partner, keeping the relationship growing stronger, can actually lighten the load. You will feel stronger and no longer alone on the journey. You will have a partner. The ways you used to connect may be impossible these days. Weekends away, vacations with just the two of you, romantic dinners out are luxuries and quite frankly may be out of your reach for now. But that doesn’t mean you stop connecting. You just need to find NEW ways of doing that.
We're In This Together! Stacy Manning p.s. Don't miss my upcoming class How To Map Out A Happier 2017 For Your Family! Free access for all members of my Intentional Parent Coaching Group. This is going to create the shift that gets your family where you want it to be! Join us TODAY. Just click the link below: http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-coaching-group1.html Look, I was thinking this morning and I know that you are probably feeling financially torn. I know that as Mom it is your job to make sure that physically and financially everyone has what they need; food on the table, decent clothes, school supplies, etc.. And then on top of all of that it is your job to spread the dollars even further to be able to provide those gifts that your children are hoping for. As Mom, we ultimately just want them all to be happy!
I totally get it...I have 6 kids and financially it takes a lot just to get breakfast, lunch and dinner on the table every week much less make sure the sleeves on their long-sleeved shirts are all long enough. I absolutely know that feeling of wanting them to be happy and of creating a Christmas or Birthday that they deserve. I learned a long time ago that the stuff isn't the only way to get there and that actually, more than the stuff, they needed ME. They needed me to understand what it means to be emotionally plugged in, they needed me to know how to meet them right where they were at, they needed me to be able to stay neutral, they needed me to be able to stay in it with them NO MATTER WHAT and FOR AS LONG AS IT TAKES...they needed and deserved a happy and healthy family and a One and Only Relationship with ME! So, the question is how do you financially justify joining the Intentional Parent Coaching Group, especially at this time of the year? Well, as a Mom I always put my time and energy into what will make the biggest impact, what will trickle down to everyone and what ultimately will bring us and keep us together as family. Like you, I want my family to be happy and healthy more than anything. I am going to BE BOLD here and just say - yes the toys, the stuff, will create happiness for a day that is for sure - maybe even a week or two. However, being a part of the Intentional Parent Coaching Group will impact your family every day forever. You see you have to look at it this way, you are not just spending the money on you...yes, you will be the "member" and you will get support like you have never felt it before, but it isn't just for you. Being a part of the IP Coaching Group will absolutely be the source of great impact on the happiness of your whole family. In my Intentional Parent Coaching Group's Private Facebook group, you will be surrounded by others that get it and that are working as hard as you are to create a happy, healthy family. The monthly training and tools and techniques I have to give to you will be the source of any shift you want to make in regards to YOUR family's ability to absolutely THRIVE. This journey can be challenging, but it doesn't have to be painful and hopeless. What I know is that my Intentional Parent Coaching Group is the absolute BEST way I can help you REALLY get to where you want to be. I have packed up 1000's of tools and techniques for you in 6 of my most powerful classes and am giving them to you for FREE when you join the Intentional Parent Coaching Group. Seriously, if you are parenting a child who is struggling, if your family is not as happy and healthy as you would like them to be, or if YOU feel like there is something missing and like maybe you have lost your way, you can be supported like never before and have strategies that work at your fingertips! I know you are torn about the money, especially at this time of the year, but the reality is that the small amount of money it will take to GET the RESULTS that you are going to see, results that impact your entire family, will be the best money you will ever spend in the hopes of creating a HAPPY FAMILY! Don't Miss This! My Black Friday Bundle is Ending TODAY at 10pm CST/ 9 pm EST! YOU can get the tools and support you ed to get your family to the next level - Happy, Healthy and Flourishing! BLACK FRIDAY BUNDLE OFFER - lock in the $47 per month for the life of your membership thru 11/29! YOU GET $582 in added content, monthly tip videos with TOOLS that actually work, and SUPPORT with meeting with me 3 times per month to get YOUR questions answered and a plan tweaked for you and your family. REGISTER NOW: http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-coaching-group1.html Here's a peek at the classes you get as a member of my Coaching Group this month - more than $580+ in FULL LENGTH CLASSES. · NEW! Your Child's BEST School Year Yet (Was $297 – Now Included Free) · NEW! How to Intentionally Support Your Child's Emotional Health (Was $57 – Now Included Free) · NEW! Dealing With The Daily Grind (Was $57 – Now Included Free) · NEW! You Deserve A Break (Was $57 – Now Included Free) · NEW! Emotional Age Matters (Was $57 – Now Included Free) · NEW! Effectively Communicate With Your Child (Was $57- Now Included Free)) IT IS TIME to invest in making your life, your child's life and actually the life of your entire family the absolute BEST it CAN BE! Can't wait to see you in Group! Stacy Manning Calgon, take me away! Literally. Take me away.
Ever have those days? Oh, man. I sure did. I'd go into the pantry and hide, hoping no one would find me. Wishing I could stay there all day, til bedtime. I'd imagine leaving a note on the kitchen table (Good luck, honey) and running way. Far away. Pretty sure my husband feared that many days when he left for work. I'd say...What the heck was I thinking? It's too hard. I can't do this anymore. We are miserable. I don't want to do it anymore. I want to go back to the way it used to be. I wish we had never done this. I'd say...What the heck were those officials thinking when they placed these children with me? I'm not the right person for the job. I don't know what I'm doing. I'm making their lives worse. Ever feel like that? That's when you need someone. Someone to...cry to, scream at, sit in silence with, lean on. Someone who will...pick you up, hold your hand, guide you, help you, hold you and cheer you on. You need someone. This job is too big to do it alone. Surround yourself with support! Remember...you are NOT alone, P.S. Need someone? I know how that feels. I really want to be there for you in the best way I can. Join me in the Intentional Parent Coaching Group where I can listen and support you through this hard stuff. It is so important to make sure you don't do this alone. I am getting ready to travel a lot this month and I was thinking about the whole (boring, but necessary) procedure that happens before you fly and I was thinking how brilliant that information really is! Before takeoff, you buckle your seat belt and listen to the flight attendant review emergency procedures. You hear that if the oxygen masks drop, you should adjust your own before assisting your child. It's just like that on this long journey for us parents of children who struggle. We must absolutely care for ourselves before we can REALLY care for our children in the everyday moments of life!
Self-care, however, tends to be last on our list of to-dos and there never seems to be any remaining energy to tackle it. Most parents say that it is easier said than done. I agree! It is difficult to not to give endlessly to others - especially our children. There is always a worry that if you don't keep on top of things they will regress or all heck will break loose. Parenting a hurt child is hard! Lots of times we question whether we can do the job - whether we are meant to be this child's parent. You can do the job; you have to claim what is yours, move it and spend time taking care of you too! I have to tell you I personally am so much more INTENTIONAL when I take time to do the things that take care of ME! Also, self-care really models a sense of self-esteem for your children, spouse and other close relationships. It's about balancing your needs with the needs of your child and intentionally ensuring the connection stays in place even when you take care of you! Here are some helpful ideas. 1) Exercise daily. I am not great at this, but when I do it I am a different person. Exercise is so essential in relieving everyday stress. Do it alone or include your child...it will be a benefit for both of you. 2) Get a Project. Sorting clothes at Goodwill or serving soup at a shelter. Sometimes it is hard to see progress on our journey; help someone else out to help you see your impact. It is empowering! 3) Take classes. Pay for a course and go. Fun, creative classes as well as those that equip you with new knowledge and techniques to apply in your everyday life. Being inspired is truly energizing. 4) Listen to soothing music. Whether it is by just turning it up loud in the car, dancing to it in the kitchen or just plugging in some headphones and listening to Mozart, music is brain organizing. 5) Talk to someone. When your child has special needs you tend to spend all your time thinking and planning to stay ahead. You need to talk to someone that gets it...someone who has walked your same path. 6) Trade time. Find another family who is walking this path and trade childcare with them. Agree on what you'd like it to look like and enjoy some peace. If you don't know another family, then groom a babysitter to do "it" the way your child needs "it" done. Educate them, pay them well, have their favorite snacks and keep your time away short - but get some time alone. 7) Fight to find the good. When we are able to find the good even when things are far from where we'd like them to be, we can continue to have HOPE. With hope we have the energy and stamina it takes to keep moving forward toward healing! When you find the time to care for yourself, you will see your family’s spirits soar. Buckle up ladies and gentlemen, we are about to take off! Most friends and family don’t truly understand what’s going on inside as you raise a child who struggles. They don’t see inside your heart, mind, or home behind closed doors. You, your child, and your household often look entirely different to them than the reality of your life.
Feeling alone is the hardest part of raising our hurt kids. To be truly understood and supported would change the entire experience for the better. I thought I would put together a few things I think we all want our friends and family along with teachers and other professionals to understand. If it resonates, share them with and educate those around you. 5 Things That Parents of Hurt Kids Want the World To Know (and REALLY understand) 1. My child looks normal (and sometimes even really put-together) on the outside, but not on the inside. A child who has experienced early trauma looks like any other child physically. However, early trauma actually changes the brain. He is behind emotionally and neurologically. 2. My child probably seems like a "perfect" kid to you, but...there's a lot you don't see. Mental and emotional health struggles are tricky and not always obvious. 3. I can feel when you judge parenting decisions and it hurts me. To live with a child who struggles the way mine does is like always waiting for the other shoe to drop. It is overwhelmingly stressful. I really need you to stand beside me rather than behind me. 4. I know that the way I parent is very different than the way you do. It's on purpose. Typical parenting techniques don't work for children who are hurt in the way mine are. Unless you have walked my path, please don't question me. 5. I feel SO alone, but it is hard for me to reach out to others. It would mean a lot to me if you would call me every once in a while, drop off a casserole or make plans for coffee. As you’re raising your hurt child, remember that you’re not alone. People across the globe experience the same isolation. This is a very difficult job - parenting a hurt child. Let's talk about it, let's teach about it and let's reach out to each other. There's a lot of hope to be had when we stick together. Remember...you are NOT alone! I have been thinking about how lucky I am to have a job that I am so passionate about and how everything would be SO different if you weren't a part of my big picture! Thank you for believing in me, for the kind notes you send and for working as hard as you do to help your child heal!
I have to say I am SO proud to be a part of this incredible group of parents. Have a WONDERFUL day and know that YOU are SO appreciated! Remember...you are NOT alone! Stacy Manning If I had a dollar or even a dime for every time I have questioned the parenting choices I made, I would be rich! When we first became a family, I have to tell you I was totally caught off guard...it was way more difficult than I had even considered. It's not like I lived in a magical land in my head and thought it would be so so simple. I knew our kids were coming from hard stuff, but it was even more difficult than I thought it would be.
I questioned myself over and over. I listened to the people outside of my situation that told me that I was doing it all wrong - that I was actually the cause of the problems we were having. I listened, even though they had never lived even an instant in my shoes. I listened when those closest to me poo-pooed the harmful behavior of my children as "all kids do that." I listened when others hinted at the fact that I brought it all upon myself (i.e. this is what you wanted). I even listened when my children said hurtful and sometimes horrible things. You see, there was NO other voice but these. I didn't have voices telling me "I get it" or "I support you." I didn't have voices that said "My child does that too and it hurts." I didn't have a support group. I didn't know others who had experience with traveling my path. I didn't have the opportunity for a mentor. None of it existed! I felt very alone. I felt like a crappy mother. The reality is that it became do or die. So I started my own support groups. I sought out the answers any way I could. I hung onto any mentor I could find for dear life. I used trial and error to figure out what works and what doesn't. And thank goodness it began to fall into place. Life began to be so much more doable. I stopped with the questioning, which enabled my children to trust my true ability to mother them. Behavior slowed way down. Healing began to be so apparent. Life REALLY changed and for the better! I want that for you. I want to help you get there. And I want to save you some of the struggle. Here's what I know for sure - my struggle would have been so much shorter, so much less painful, if I hadn't of had to do it alone. It's kind of like trying to teach yourself a new language. Yes, you can read about it in a book, but you have to do it without Rosetta Stone, without ever hearing a fluent speaker, and without getting advice from a fluent speaker. Pretty difficult! The great news is YOU don't have to do it that way. You have the opportunity to work with someone who has been there, be a part of a group of people who Get It (no judgement, no advice based on never walking your journey, no questioning). I created my Inner Circle so that YOU have this kind of opportunity - so that your struggle can end. You can't go wrong making this jump! . It is a monthly membership which families who join don't want to be without! The only risk in giving it a try is that you could find a place where you feel GREAT. A place where you can get input and advice from someone who gets your struggle and actually knows how to help. A place where you can actually feel normal and understood. I mean seriously, who wouldn't want that and how could that not have a huge impact on your whole life? Don't wait another minute - Let's get you started! Just follow the link below to register! http://www.tohavehope.com/stacy-mannings-inner-circle.html See you in Inner Circle, Stacy Manning |
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