You know, I was thinking...one of the most important things we can do for our children is to meet them right where they are at and understanding their learning style is where it all begins when it comes to school!
Whether at public school or at home I remember trying to help my girls learn. So many times we had to work through the emotional stuff and then through the impacts of trauma and other deficits and then they could finally learn some concepts. The question became HOW? How could I teach them what they needed to know and how could I support the teacher at school to do the same? Focusing on learning styles was KEY. Really understanding HOW each of my girls learned and WHY really helped me see things clearly! Once you figure it out there are so many great resources out there to help us teach our children. There are also teachers at school that want to help too, but just don't have the time it takes to figure out what is best for our kids. If we know how they learn best, we can include that in an IEP or pass it along to teachers. Learning style really impacts the whole experience...things like whether they can sit still or not, how they handle their emotions, figuring out math and reading, making friends, and even following the rules. It really is one of the most important elements in making school work and that's why it is ONE of the main focuses of my next class Your Child's Best School Year Yet. Just imagine a more peaceful school year! I know that your child's school year can be different and I know how to arm you with the words and tools to get there! This Intentional Parent Series includes not one, but 3 experts in the field along with tools, techniques and communication strategies that you have never heard before! There is so much that can be done! Join me for my exclusive 4 week session and be one of only 25 families that will change their child's school experience for good! In order to make sure you get a very specific plan in place I can only take 25 families so don't wait! Oh and by the way - in an effort to make sure you get everything you need to make this year different I am also giving you 2 other very popular classes for FREE. There are a handful of classes left...get your spot NOW because Registration CLOSES TOMORROW (Saturday August 13th) at NOON! Use the link below to register! http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-master-series.html**You also get...a Complimentary recording of two of my best sellers Dealing With The Daily Grind: Eating, Sleeping and Bathrooming & The Power of Hope ***If you can't meet with us on the night of the class that is okay, I have you covered. You get to watch the recording! Let's get started on making this your child's BEST school year yet!
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It's that time of year again...Back to School. Once again, as Intentional Parents, we need to see with our hearts and our heads, not only our eyes. We need to support our children through this school year meeting them right where they are – seeing the whole child not just the outside survivor! It is a very INTENTIONAL mindset!
For many of our kids, school is HARD! The bus ride is even HARDER! It can really force them back to their SURVIVOR SELF! Think about it; it is a survival of the fittest kind of feel some days. Do you have the right clothes, the right shoes, are you tall enough, cool enough, do you use the right lingo? Beyond that your family may be different from others, you’ve seen SO much, adults have hurt you, kids have hurt you, you don’t think you are smart enough, strong enough, pretty enough and on and on. No wonder it is so hard for our kids! As Intentional Parents, we can help them best if we can see things as DEFICIT not DEFIANCE! Some of our kids cover it pretty well. Some of them even become the PERFECT student. They internalize the belief that if they are a good student they are worthy of good things. We want them to internalize that we believe they are worthy just because of who they are (our child), not what they do. That we will be there for them NO MATTER WHAT! We have to verbalize this reality over and over and then back it up with action! Back them up, be their cheerleader. Teach them balance. Teach them what it means to have a “one and only”! Some of our kids will not be able to cover so easily. But once again it is about their core belief about themselves and so we must remind them that even though they don’t believe they can do it, even though they feel so different from everyone else, even though they are worried about losing us when they are not with us – we will be there as long as it takes and NO MATTER WHAT! We understand that there is an emotion behind the behavior that needs caring for. We are clear that children who are working on attaching have a hard time doing academic work as well. We know that their struggle is not because “he isn’t trying” hard enough. We are there for our child, seeing his whole self - NO MATTER WHAT! Seeing the situation with a clear Intentional Parent Mindset isn’t always easy. This is where we start swimming upstream – against the current, a different direction than everyone else! The really GREAT news is that this is where HEALING happens because this is where our child REALLY begins to understand what it means to have someone there for them No Matter What. They begin to internalize that they are worthy of good things in life because THEY matter! With those kinds of messages impacting their core belief about themselves, over time they will be freed up to learn and explore the world so much more freely! So when we are trying to help with homework, educate teachers, deal with ugly behavior, we must remember to use an Intentional Parent Mindset. As we parent our child who has lost so much, we must always look behind the behavior (positive and negative) and meet the emotional needs that are there! Problems with math, being overwhelmed with getting assignments back and forth, and not understanding the reason for rules...these are all rooted in the same place. When you start focusing on the impacts that trauma has on learning you will be able to create your child's best school year yet!
Trauma takes its toll on many aspects of learning with concentration, memorization and self-regulation being just a few. So many families struggle to help their hurt child have a positive school experience; however, they report feeling like they are running into a brick wall. Our children have suffered trauma due to the loss of their biological parent and there is just no question that it has great impact on their ability to do school. Their ability to stay on task has been skewed by the missing out on developmental stages along the way. Learning takes organization and regulation, but their ability to do those things is absolutely compromised because of the chaos and inconsistencies they grew up in. The issue are real...this is deficit NOT defiance! The great news is that there are tools and techniques that can help your child be more successful in school and maybe even have fun doing it! Imagine, your child having his best school year yet! What an impact that would have on your whole family! There is so much that can be done! Join me for my exclusive 4 week session and be one of only 25 families that will change their child's school experience for good! In order to make sure you get a very specific plan in place I can only take 25 families so don't wait! Oh and by the way - in an effort to make sure you get everything you need to make this year different I am also giving you 2 other very popular classes for FREE. I know that things can be different and I know how to arm you with the words and tools to get there! This Intentional Parent Series includes not one but 3 experts in the field along with tools, techniques and communication strategies that you have never heard before! DOORS are closing VERY soon! Don't wait and miss it! Let's get started on your ACTION PLAN NOW! Use the link below to register! http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-master-series.htmlOkay so let me make sure you know...I can only work this closely with a group of 25 and be effective - 25 is the cap and seats are already going! *****You also get...a Complimentary recording of two of my best sellers Dealing With The Daily Grind: Eating, Sleeping and Bathrooming & The Power of Hope ***If you can't meet with us on the night of the class that is okay, I have you covered. You get to watch the recording! See you in class! I just need a minute. I know you don't really want to deal with the topic of school right now, but if you haven't already started, the first day is right around the corner! NOW is the time to get a plan in place that will make for your child's BEST YEAR YET!
SO here's the thing. Many families struggle with the actual learning part of school - especially math. Others are constantly getting called into school because of their child's disruptive behavior. And then there are those moms and dads who are concerned about their child's lack of ability to fit in and have friends. School is simply torture year after year. Our girls struggled too. Lots of our time was spent managing fight, flight and freeze and not really feeling like they were grasping topics. The blow-ups and tantrums rocked our home almost every day and the adults at school just didn't get where we were coming from. I realized very quickly that school was just another place I needed to learn to be an Intentional Parent. I HAD to do this differently. I had to know how my child learned best, what would that look like and then I had to dig deep to make a plan that would help him get there. Learning should be fun;it was up to me to figure out how my child could be happy within his school experience. I want this year to be totally different for you and your student. And it can be! Do you really know all of your options? Do you know how your child learns best? Better yet, do you know how make it happen? There are so many options available, so much research you need to know and SO MANY tools, techniques and strategies that WILL make all the difference. Let me help. If you are ready to figure out the best path for your child, one that allows him to like to learn, to do better in math and reading to make friends, and keep his behavior in check, then let's do this! I will take a small group of only 25 parents through a 4 class session so that I can work closely with each of you to help build your action plan for the upcoming school year. I know that things can be different and I know how to arm you with the words and tools to get there! This Intentional Parent Series includes not one, but 3 experts in the field along with tools, techniques and communication strategies that you have never heard before! Let's get started on your ACTION PLAN NOW! Use the link below to register! http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-master-series.html Okay, so let me make sure you know...I can only work this closely with a group of 25 and be effective - 25 is the cap and seats are already going! *****You also get...a Complimentary recording of two of my best sellers Dealing With The Daily Grind: Eating, Sleeping and Bathrooming & The Power of Hope ***If you can't meet with us on the night of the class that is okay, I have you covered. You get to listen to the recording! Let's make this your child's BEST school year yet! As I talk to parents all around the world, one of the repeating themes is learning or as many refer to it - school. It doesn't matter if it is public, private or home - learning and all that entails is a challenge for our children.
Studies show that children who have had difficult pasts (loss of a bio parent, an anxious parent, abuse, neglect, and many other diagnoses) struggle with the learning experience. These children have a hard time academically, behaviorally and with making and retaining positive friendships. Parents confide in me that they feel trapped and don't know how to help their children be more successful. They deal with melt downs of huge proportions around school work, they get called from school regularly due to their child's disrespectful or aggressive behavior and that sometimes it just seems like their child doesn't care. It is such a huge stumbling block for many, many families. As with any challenge, we work together to pinpoint the changes that would make their child's learning journey a more positive and successful one. Then we focus in on tools and techniques parents can use to help make those changes happen. The changes typically fall in one of five categories...meeting your child where he is at, creating a learning environment that fits your child's needs, calming the limbic system, being in an environment that supports practice and educating and arming other key people on your child's path. Getting everything aligned is key! And when you do you find yourself dealing with a happier, calmer, more successful child. That kind of change affects the whole family! You CAN do something about it but you've got to GO FOR IT! I want to help you take a look at every angle. There are so many options when it comes to creating a more successful schooling experience. When you have all the information, you can make a more informed and effective plan. We are going to dig deep into every aspect of the process...Join me and only 24 others for an in-depth series on learning and enjoy a VERY DIFFERENT school year beginning this fall. Your family does NOT have to be miserable all for the sake of learning! You need an action plan that is full of tried and true techniques that really work! Join me in my next session Your Child's Learning Journey and watch your family begin to THRIVE! http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-master-series.html Intentional Parent Master Series: Your Child's LEARNING Journey is ALL NEW. Come and join me, 2 other Education Experts and an exclusive group of 25 families to make the biggest positive change your family has felt in a long time! |
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