Yesterday I snuck away for an hour or so to a coffee shop. Sipping on a warm drink and working on some upcoming stuff for my Intentional Parent Coaching Group with Christmas music being played was good for my mindset.
As I sat there typing, I could hear the gal at the counter greet each customer and take their orders. She was outstanding at her job. Personal. Genuine. Enthusiastic. Warm. Whoever hired her made a GREAT choice!
I often talk about Finding the Good in each day. This was some good in my day for sure, but it didn’t seem like something to keep to myself. I popped my head over the coffee machine and told her what a fantastic job she was doing. Just took a second, but wanted her to know she was making a difference.
Here’s the thing…making a difference doesn’t have to be something BIG. Little things can make just as a big of a difference. She was making a difference with small gestures, but I am certain she made a difference in many people’s day today.
When you go about your day, know that you have the power to make a difference – in the big things AND in the small things. Keep doing those things. Keep striving to do even more.
And when you come upon someone else doing things that make a difference, let them know. It just may be what keeps the momentum going.
We're In This Together,
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Feeling Financially Torn?
Look, I was thinking this morning and I know that you are probably feeling financially torn. I know that as Mom it is your job to make sure that physically and financially everyone has what they need; food on the table, decent clothes, school supplies, etc.. And then on top of all of that it is your job to spread the dollars even further to be able to provide those gifts that your children are hoping for. As Mom, we ultimately just want them all to be happy!
I totally get it...I have 6 kids and financially it takes a lot just to get breakfast, lunch and dinner on the table every week much less make sure the sleeves on their long-sleeved shirts are all long enough. I absolutely know that feeling of wanting them to be happy and of creating a Christmas or Birthday that they deserve. I learned a long time ago that the stuff isn't the only way to get there and that actually, more than the stuff, they needed ME.
They needed me to understand what it means to be emotionally plugged in, they needed me to know how to meet them right where they were at, they needed me to be able to stay neutral, they needed me to be able to stay in it with them NO MATTER WHAT and FOR AS LONG AS IT TAKES...they needed and deserved a happy and healthy family and a One and Only Relationship with ME!
So, the question is how do you financially justify joining the Intentional Parent Coaching Group, especially at this time of the year?
Well, as a Mom I always put my time and energy into what will make the biggest impact, what will trickle down to everyone and what ultimately will bring us and keep us together as family. Like you, I want my family to be happy and healthy more than anything.
I am going to BE BOLD here and just say - yes the toys, the stuff, will create happiness for a day that is for sure - maybe even a week or two. However, being a part of the Intentional Parent Coaching Group will impact your family every day forever. You see you have to look at it this way, you are not just spending the money on you...yes, you will be the "member" and you will get support like you have never felt it before, but it isn't just for you. Being a part of the IP Coaching Group will absolutely be the source of great impact on the happiness of your whole family.
In my Intentional Parent Coaching Group's Private Facebook group, you will be surrounded by others that get it and that are working as hard as you are to create a happy, healthy family. The monthly training and tools and techniques I have to give to you will be the source of any shift you want to make in regards to YOUR family's ability to absolutely THRIVE. This journey can be challenging, but it doesn't have to be painful and hopeless.
What I know is that my Intentional Parent Coaching Group is the absolute BEST way I can help you REALLY get to where you want to be. I have packed up 1000's of tools and techniques for you in 6 of my most powerful classes and am giving them to you for FREE when you join the Intentional Parent Coaching Group.
Seriously, if you are parenting a child who is struggling, if your family is not as happy and healthy as you would like them to be, or if YOU feel like there is something missing and like maybe you have lost your way, you can be supported like never before and have strategies that work at your fingertips!
I know you are torn about the money, especially at this time of the year, but the reality is that the small amount of money it will take to GET the RESULTS that you are going to see, results that impact your entire family, will be the best money you will ever spend in the hopes of creating a HAPPY FAMILY!
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The stories we tell ourselves matter. If we say “I’ve tried everything”, we tend to stop searching for new ways. We stop trying new strategies. We have convinced ourselves there is nothing left to try.
The same goes for when we say “nothing works”. When we believe that nothing works, we give up trying. What’s the point if it’s not going to work anyway?
“No matter what I do, my child doesn’t change.” Yep, that’s another one. Another reason to not seek out new ways, to not try different strategies.
But here’s the deal…those “I’ve tried everything”, “Nothing works”, and “No matter what I do, my child doesn’t change” are not realities. They are not truths.
It’s time to change those statements. Time to start to speak truth, start seeing things clearly.
Next time you hear yourself saying or thinking those, STOP. Reframe. Reword.
There is MORE I can try. There are new options, other possibilities. New strategies. Different tools.
I AM going to find something that works. It may not be this, but I will keep searching. I will keep trying because my child deserves that. My family deserves that. I deserve that.
My child IS getting better. Maybe not as fast as I would like. May not always be easy to see. And yes, there will be steps backwards. But my child is making progress and will continue to do so as long as I keep trying and keep holding onto hope.
Your story matters. Your words matter. Your belief matters. Your hope matters.
Remembering Your Why
The other day I was listening to the radio and the announcer said “Find your why.” Luckily, I am quite certain of my why. I know my why when it comes to what I do for my children. I know why I started on the journey, why I chose to be a mom, and why I adopted. When it comes to mentoring parents and supporting families, I know my why.
Many parents that I work with know their why. They know why they started on this parenting journey. The whys are not all the same – some to give a child a family, some because of infertility, some to become a mom, and on and on. When asked, many are confident of their why.
Finding the why is often not the problem. The challenge can be REMEMBERING the why. When things get tough and the road gets bumpy, it can be easy to feel frustrated and overwhelmed. The focus becomes on the here and now, and sometimes that is not pretty.
SO....my advice to you is to REMEMBER YOUR WHY.
Take a moment. Close your eyes. Put your hand on your heart and remember why you started. Breathe in deeply and feel it. See it. Know it. Remember it. Hold onto it.
Well, just to be sure we are getting into the holiday swing here...the weather is a combination of freezing rain to snow. If I wasn't ready before, this weather shift always pushes me to face the reality - the big holiday season starts in under a week.
16 years and one week ago we celebrated our first Thanksgiving as a family of 8. Wow, talk about facing reality. I had all of these DREAMS for my daughters. My dreams included laughter, smiles, hugs, loving feelings, time together, sharing, new traditions, family, more and more family. There was some of that sprinkled in, but some of those dreams were missing and the missing stuff plus some not-so-great behavior/words were blamed on the facts that we were speaking different languages, the newness of it all, and everyone just being overwhelmed.
Honestly, as time passed it got more and more difficult. Christmas looked great to the outsiders. All the kids (3 boys and 3 girls) were dressed up cute, there were smiles on their faces as they opened gifts from Grandmas and Grandpas, they tried all the delicious treats and said please and thank you nicely. However, on the inside it was a whole different story altogether!
Inside our family was a MESS! The girls were miserable and acted out constantly (when others weren't looking). The boys were totally thrown off by all of the chaos that happened behind our closed doors. Our marriage was stressed. We distanced ourselves from others because we felt judged and unsupported. I felt like an awful Mom, Wife, Daughter, Grandaughter, Niece, Cousin and friend. I really felt very alone.
Out of a deep desire to get my family back in shape, I began doing things very differently and our mess began to take on a new more positive and happy feel. I tweaked and tweaked how I parented. I researched, read and attended any training I could. I found the tools and techniques that worked to help us all enjoy the holidays. I finally could hold my head up HIGH, my family was in such a better place!
If you are like I was and you dream of giving your children the experience of a loving, joyful, peaceful, family-filled holiday, it would be my honor to give you the tools and techniques you need to be successful! You will be ready to tackle the tantrums and crabbiness head on, create a holiday time where your family and friends help you help your children not sabotage you at every turn, and start looking forward to the holidays yourself!
There are only a few days left to get registered for my class "Surviving the Holidays with a Challenging Child"
To make sure this class REALLY WORKS for you, here's the plan...
**You get the recording of the class to watch at your convenience
**You are invited to a second LIVE Q & A session in December so you can tweak your plan
**You will receive my "Surviving The Holidays: Intentional Parent Checklist" to help you stay intentional
Get your spot NOW! Time IS Getting Short (click the link)
The Power of Gratitude
Yesterday, I was watching a video by Tony Robbins. It was about the power of gratitude and really struck a chord with me. His message was that is impossible to feel gratitude and anger at the same time. Impossible to feel gratitude and fear at the same time.
It can be easy to be stuck in anger. Angry with our child’s behavior. Angry at the system that failed our child. Angry at someone who is judging and getting in the way of what we are trying to do.
It can be easy to be stuck in fear. Fear of our child’s future. Fear of our future. Fear of having to stand up to others in order to get our child what he needs and deserves.
Enter the power of gratitude.
Focus on something or someone you are grateful for. The sun shining. Your cozy slippers. Your family. A supportive friend. The list goes on and on and on.
Say it in your head. Write it down. Speak it out loud. Feel it in your heart.
Gratitude is a POWERFUL TOOL!
What are you grateful for today?
It's that time of year again. Parents are getting ready for the holidays and getting stressed out about how they will turn out. How about you? Are you ready?
Oh boy do I remember it well...talk about stress. I just wanted everyone to be happy. Happy with the stuff yes, but more importantly, happy just being together. Yeah, that was a stretch. Between the behavior and melt downs and the eating and sleeping stuff there was NO happy anywhere. As a matter of fact, it even trickled down to crabbiness between my hubby and I and even grumpiness and distance among my extended family and I too. Nobody got it...NOBODY!
It got to a point where it was pretty miserable and I had had enough. I mean dread was becoming a part of the holidays - actually any celebration for that matter - something had to change.
And it did change! I began putting together a plan that included tools and techniques that helped my kids cope better. A plan that included talking to my family and friends in a way in which they could not only better understand what I was now doing to help my family, but how they could actually help. Best of all, a plan that really helped my whole family (including me) have a much better holiday than ever before.
You can have this kind of change too. I would be honored to help. Really, it's about using tools and techniques that work, getting your family and friends on board, and having a plan that helps you have your best holiday season yet. Why would you not try this? Don't waste another year being stressed. It can all change right now!
Just click the link to get registered there's less then a week left! You won't regret it!
A Big Breakthrough
The other day on my Facebook page, we were talking about a breakthrough. You know the kind of breakthrough we as parents are looking for, working so hard to accompish?
Would love to hear YOUR thoughts!
We Need to Talk
If you are worried about the upcoming holidays, even a little bit, we need to talk. Umm yes, lots of families really struggle when they are "supposed" to be celebrating - you are not alone in that. It is NOT pretty. And the reality is, it can become one of the most difficult challenges on this journey.
I come from a big Irish family and being together for every holiday was just how we did it. I LOVED it. I looked forward to sharing our traditions, recalling moments from the past and making more good memories. Honestly, I couldn't wait to bring my children into this world. Along with that, it was really my goal to create that feeling of comfort and joy within my own little family too. Well, it was really taking place as each of our boys were born. As a matter of fact, I can even say that it was just plain EASY. However, it was far from easy when it came to the girls.
Long story short...this is where the NOT PRETTY part starts. I knew it wasn't going to be perfect and that there would be some challenges, but I had no idea that what brought me such pleasure my entire life could be turned into something I began to truly dread. Between the hard words and behavior of our children (usually only in our home and not in front of others), the judgemental feeling stares, comments, and unsolicited advice from family members, and the exhaustion and disappointment in not feeling like a good Mom, our life was turned upside down.
It had come down to, figure it out or be miserable! I had a hunch and I followed it. Over and over again I started putting in place new ways of meeting the girls where they were at. I found I didn't have to give up my hopes and dreams for my family when it came to the holidays; I just had to tweak things to help them manage better. You can do it too.
I have spent years testing this out, adjusting, focusing in on all the "places" we can be intentional about when it comes to celebrations. Less acting out, fewer tantrums & meltdowns, and an overall calm. There is SO much we can do to help our kids experience it all the way we did and the way we hoped they could. The holidays are really a time when we experience the ultimate feeling of belonging - what a gift to give our children. I am so excited to tell you that it can be done. And it can begin now, this year!
In my upcoming LIVE webinar, I will give you a step by step plan that will help you put the tweaks in place that will create an experience that your child can manage and even enjoy. One in which he can be successful, feel worthy of all of the goodness and gain the gift of understanding that he belongs too!
Here's the thing though, the holidays are just around the corner so we need to do this soon. The doors are closing in just a week so...Get Your Spot NOW! (just click on the link below for more info)
Can't be there live? Don't worry, you get the recording and a second live session in December to ask your questions!
See you in class!
Did YOU Realize?
Holy Buckets, did you realize that Thanksgiving is only two weeks away?
Boy, have things changed for me when it comes to the holidays. Thanksgiving would have never snuck up on me 14 years ago. Oh no, I would have been very clear on how many days, hours, and even seconds remained until I had to face it all. Until I had to watch my family members watch my kids with raised eyebrows or listen to advice on how to parent my "poor" children better. Until I had to listen to screaming and endure the kicks in my kidneys from the back of my car seat, which stopped abruptly as we pulled into Grandma's driveway. Until I had to watch my girls look charming and wonderful to everyone else as I had the look of a crazed bad Mother across my face. Until we would arrive back home and deal with the fall out in the form of anger, blaming, and NOT sleeping. Oh boy, those were the days - I SO did not enjoy the holidays much less look forward to them.
I couldn't take it anymore. I just had to figure out how to be happy again, how to enjoy the holidays again. I started doing things differently - little by little. The shift began to make a difference. Less acting out, fewer meltdowns, and over all less anxiety. And my dread began to dissipate too. It felt amazing. The more intentional I became the more positive our holidays became! They developed into a time of making good memories, creating new traditions and truly enjoying the celebrations at hand. Now that's FAMILY!
Like I said, boy have things changed for us and they can change for you too and I would be honored to share my proven tools and techniques with you!
In my upcoming LIVE webinar, I will give you a step by step plan to create a holiday season that works for you and your child. One that you can truly enjoy and your child can succeed at. It CAN look a whole lot different.
Grab your seat TODAY and start looking forward to the holidays again! This one is going to fill up fast!
See you in class!