Have you ever heard the saying "Attitude is Everything?" I am not sure who said it, but they were very WISE!
If you look around you at the people who you consider happy or successful, you will see people with a POSITIVE attitude. Those that seem stuck or alone are typically grumpy and negative. Our attitude is such a driving force within our lives. It can push you to do great things or pull you down into the pits of unhappiness.
While it is true that humans are born with certain tendencies, our personality and attitudes are developed through our relationships and experiences. Our attitudes begin to develop in childhood and evolve and change as we grow through daily interactions and experiences.
All the "stuff" you have been through and all of the people you have known throughout your life can have impact on your attitude. That impact could be positive and have taught you that you can do anything. Or it may have been negative, which has only created a poor attitude towards life within you. DO NOT WORRY...you can change your attitude - there's always an opportunity for change!
Here are a few things you can do to begin to make that change:
1. Be clear with your self about what you want to change about yourself.
Dig deep and name it. Seeing the problem clearly is the first step in making any change. What do you want to change? Do you want to be more optimistic, more social or more patient...name it!
2. Find a role model.
Find someone who has the kind of attitude you want to have and do what they do. Let yourself be inspired by their choices and words.
3. Think about what the end result will be.
What will it look like if you change your attitude to a more positive one? Will your marriage be stronger, your family life be happier or your relationship with your child be calmer? Really focus on all the good that will come with a renewed positive attitude and you will have a better chance of reaching your goals.
4. Surround yourself with people with positive attitudes.
Make new friends, create new support systems. Negative attitudes are toxic...stay away!
5. Believe that you can start over.
Usually our biggest hurdle is ourselves. If you believe that you can adjust your attitude every day, you will do it!
The reality is that the quality of our attitude directly impacts the quality of our every day, every relationship, every challenge! Strive to have a positive one in all things. And what I know for sure is that with some deep digging and a belief that you can start new every day, you will get there!