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A Great Starting Point

12/28/2016

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What would you think if I said that one of the best strategies for having a peaceful, healthy, connected family is to be NEUTRAL?

Yep, just neutral. Not rainbows and unicorns. Just N.E.U.T.R.A.L.

Here's the thing...we all know that being angry and disappointed isn't going to help our children heal, that's easy. However, most people don't understand that our children are not wired for over the top happy either. All that positivity can be a trigger just as easily as shouting and anger.

As you look to support your child's emotional health, know that staying plugged in but being NEUTRAL in your emotional responses is consistent, predictable, and reliable. That IS where healing can happen. It is where brain wiring is adjusted to help your children live more easily in a calm, loving family.

As you look to be the most healing parent you can be, know that NEUTRAL is a doable goal. Neutral can be achieved most consistently which matters. Neutral is always real and honest which your child can sense. Neutral stops the spin.  

So, I don't want you to get confused here...being neutral doesn't mean you never recognize a job well done or obvious progress. Being neutral means you know how to give positive feedback that your child can soak in - compliments that don't cause triggers. Input that he can trust and that he can truly understand and integrate into his core beliefs about himself and his relationship with you. This is where you and he begin to feel the shift!

Be a safe, steady and predictable foundation...make your goal NEUTRAL!

You CAN do this,
Stacy Manning  
 
P.S. If you want a more in depth understanding of NEUTRAL and other strategies that really work, you need to be a part of my Intentional Parent Coaching Group. I will teach you how to make a difference every day. It's time to stop just surviving and start thriving! Click here for more information and to get started today! http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-coaching-group.html
 
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