If there is one thing I know for sure, it is that there is no such thing as the "magic pill" to help our kids heal, BUT staying in it for the LONG HAUL is REALLY The Game Changer!
Undoing old beliefs, habits and thinking patterns is the first phase.
One thing leads to the next thing and then even further to things you didn't know existed. It takes time! More time than most would ever think!
Dumping in all that you have to offer is the second phase.
Your Love, your morals, your dreams, your time, your knowledge. It takes time! Time that doesn't always show clear results!
Being the "Bridge" for your child is the third phase.
Gapping relationships, pulls from the outside world, his belief about himself and being the unending source of HOPE. It takes time. More than most believe they can endure!
Clearly seeing your "whole child" and meeting them there is the fourth phase.
Living the reality that this is who they are. Still feeling lost sometimes, still not trusting sometimes, still abandoned, still hurt. Still needing YOU. This takes time. A lifetime!
Being fully committed to being in it for the long haul takes consistent support, education, the right tools & techniques, and HOPE! Push to make sure you have all of these all of the time...You can DO this. You can be the BIG WINNER--Happiness and Healing!
Just Keep On, Keepin' On! Remember, you are not alone.