I really thought I was ready! I knew there would be struggles and I knew the girls would have some issues, but it was so much more than I ever could have imagined. I was so tired and it didn’t seem like I was really making any difference for my girls! It just felt like the same stuff over and over again – like some days I was hitting my head up against a big old brick wall.
Then, a light bulb went on and I realized that just because what I had done this way with my boys and it had worked didn’t mean it would work for my girls; they came from a whole different place!
I HAD TO DO IT DIFFERENTLY!
So, I attended conferences and classes, interviewed experts, dug through volumes and volumes of data. It was evident that there was so much more to this attachment stuff than anyone had ever taught me. More than my agency had ever prepared me with. More than any adoption book ever talked about. As I did so, I just couldn’t believe that nobody teaches this stuff!
Using attachment style identification as a tool to help peg the motives of my child has been life altering. I had a whole new clarity about how to go forward with my children. I then used new tools and techniques that proved to be really effective! The banging of my head could stop! The reality is that these tools really impacted all of my other relationships in a good way as well! So that was a bonus! Making correlations between the impact of trauma on attachment and my child’s behavior was like I had come out of the darkness and into the light! Things really changed!
Over the last 10 years working with my children and thousands of families, I have really mastered how to put these tools to work to create peace in the homes of adoptive/foster/kinship/guardian families! To create healing! To empower families! I have only taught this information to private coaching clients up to now, but have decided it is time to share it with as many families as possible!
My next teleseminar will help you work SMARTER NOT HARDER! You will be filled with new energy and empowered with tools that work! You CAN do this!
Attachment and Connectedness