Being a parent is an incredible opportunity - no matter how you get there - but there is so much more to each one of us, the stuff that makes us fully whole...the stuff that adds to the definition of ME. Unfortunately, when we parent children who are really struggling, it is easy to develop Back Burner Syndrome.
Many parents of hurt kids come to me to talk about not really knowing themselves anymore, feeling lost and basically unhappy. In focusing so intently on the healing of their children, they have pushed everything else to the back burner. They are exhausted and losing hope.
It is time to make a change! I know it seems like there is not enough time or that you don't have enough energy...but I am here to tell you that that is NOT true. Feeling productive, being able to measure the positive impact you can make on the world and using your mind to take care of you is EMPOWERING. You will find more energy and inspiration to put into every one of your relationships.
You will feel strong, you will be clear about your worth as a person and a parent and your world will follow suit. Your children will still struggle because this journey of healing is long, but you will be stronger, healthier and have more of you to give because you cleared off the back burner!
Give your family and yourself the whole person you were meant to be...take a class, change your hair color, get a tattoo, repaint your living room, take up a sport, hold babies at the crisis nursery...whatever it is, BE YOUR WHOLE SELF!