Help School Label It What It Is...An Impact of Trauma

So many times your children get labeled the naughty child. 
Unfortunately, teachers are under a lot of pressure to care for and teach large groups of kiddos and that doesn't leave them the opportunity to figure out why your child is struggling or how they can help him/her to succeed.

And in the craziness of every day life, it is our children who can't sit down and conform like the rest of the class, who don't read the non-verbal cues and social nuances correctly so they stick out, who because of their reality are so hyper-vigilant they miss directions, can't concentrate much less remember what they need to, and who don't have cause and effect thinking to help them fit-in.

Their CAN'Ts are misinterpreted as WON'Ts. They quickly become that child. 

Then, when what that teacher knows how to do doesn't work...that child can really pay the price. 

Here are just a few things I would recommend putting in place to avoid having your child be that child this school year:

1. Ask your child's teacher to be an extension of you, not a replacement for you.

• Share a list of the impacts of trauma your child struggles with.   
  
• Share a list of your child's triggers with the teacher.
  
• Give her a few tools you use to help your child calm.
  
• Ask the teacher to reference you often to your child.

2. Put in place a fail-proof communication plan with teacher. ​

• It's important that your child knows that everyone is on the same team.
  
• Don't be triangulated.

3. Help create a plan with your child's teacher that will help your child feel emotionally safe.

• Decrease stimuli when needed
  
• No behavior charts
  
• Help child to connect with you some time in the day.

I do want to make sure that I say very clearly that I believe that 99% of teachers do care and want our children to succeed. It's just that they have a hard job and they (like many of us) were not really trained properly to help our children heal. So...it's important we work together!
  
I know, it is really hard to explain this stuff. And I get that sometimes your child is a whole other person in school. However, I also know that if you can get you child's school day calmer and more successful, your whole family would be affected...and in a really good way.

SO, I want to personally invite you to join my Coaching Group. Let me teach you more tools and strategies that you can put in place to create the shift you all deserve! Oh and just click this link 
http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-coaching-group.html to find out about the BONUS I'm offering this month only to the Intentional Parent Coaching Group Members. This is a bonus that will make it very easy for you to say all you need to say to your child's teacher!    

See you in group!