I Was Thinking...
There's one thing I know without a shadow of a doubt…we NEED to parent our adopted children differently than we do our biological children or than we were parented. The loss of that primary attachment figure changed their lives FOREVER...it has taken its toll. They have ALL been affected!
Understanding the implications of their trauma and abandonment changes the way you view your child! Reminding yourself over and over again how those implications play into every moment of his day, every choice, every thought is crucial in really knowing how to live with him and how to parent him!
Educating yourself is crucial in helping you understand the "whys" and it also gives you the ability to stay in the relationship NO MATTER WHAT and the motivation to find and use TOOLS that WORK!
I know what it is like to feel bogged down in all of the behavior. I remember wondering if anything would help. I spent many hours afraid it would never change and contemplating whether I was the right person to parent my adopted child. The CHANGE came when I truly realized I had to do "it" DIFFERENTLY! I had to understand THIS child...every last bit of her before things would be better.
I've experienced the CHANGE! Not all deficits are totally gone, but our lives are much more PEACEFUL. Self-doubt is a thing of the past and I know I am my child's best chance at HEALING!
I am excited to share what I've learned! I want to GIVE YOU THE TOOLS...you don't have to settle or feel backed-into-a-corner all of the time. There are tools and techniques you can use to change all of that! Using the TOOLS designed with an adopted child's deficits in mind is pivotal to the CHANGE you are seeking! HEALING can happen...if you use the right tool for the job! This is the stuff I share in my webinars, on Facebook, in workshops and in my coaching...I love to talk about it! It's LIFE CHANGING!
Remember! YOU are in charge of your own happiness. EDUCATE YOURSELF so you can see and do things differently and ultimately find YOUR way to HAPPY again!