I Was Thinking...
The other day it dawned on me - we (adoptive/foster parents) get frustrated and sad because others don't understand the hard stuff we deal with. We want so much for the world to see what a real day-in-the-life of an adoptive or foster family is.
We feel judged. Ignored. Unsupported.
But, If we want it to change we need to work hard to...
see it differently!
say it differently!
and do it differently!
Let's not let see ourselves through the filter our child has ended up with...or the skewed view of those that haven't lived it. Don't become bitter or afraid. Don't blame or get frozen.Don't doubt yourself or your support system. We are good parents who are trying to do the RIGHT THING.
Let's use words to express our feelings that are rooted from the voice of that parent that knows this is a hard job, knows that their child has deficits, knows that this is a process, knows that others really can't understand unless they've lived it, believes they deserve support and KNOWS THEY CAN DO IT!
Let's do it with the dignity, strength, tenacity, hope, fire and passion of the people we are deep down inside. The parents that know this is the right thing to do! Our children DID NOT ASK to have suffered their past!
YOU can make a difference for yourself and other adoptive/foster parents!
Educate Your Support System.
Engage in conversations on Facebook.
Try New Techniques.
Try Old Things Again
As you see it differently you will begin to say it differently, which will energize you to do it differently!
This kind of commitment can not be ignored or judged negatively and it will overwhelmingly earn the respect of those who you need support from.