I just wanted to let you and your spouse know that it IS possible to get time together! That not only is it possible, but that I absolutely know how much you long for it! I know that it feels like you don’t even know each other anymore and that you struggle to agree on the simplest things sometimes. I know that you are often challenged to find the energy to take care of you, much less make time to spend together. Time that doesn’t cost your child emotionally so that you can really enjoy yourselves.
Do you want to know how I know? I lived it! We struggled too, as do many adoptive and foster parents. Our first goal is to do the best for our children. However, it often came at the expense of our time to take care of ourselves and our marriage. It almost felt like we lived two different lives. I was caught in the spin of all the ups and downs of daily life with kids who struggle and my husband was out navigating the world and its pressures. It almost felt like we were losing each other and ourselves!
We knew we needed time together, but it was really hard to do. I felt like it was too much of a risk. Our kids were so anxious beforehand and then I dealt with tons of behaviors afterward. My husband didn’t understand my worry and he felt powerless to make things better. It was time to do it differently! Thank goodness we figured things out and came up with answers that worked.
Here is the secret…to make spending time alone together work, you have to know how to keep the connection between you and your kids “alive” even when you are not with them physically.
You CAN do this! These are simple tweaks we have to make as part of a new way of parenting. They take some planning, but otherwise are not hard. Here’s the great news…once you master them you can teach them to your support system, teachers, and babysitters so that they can help you keep that connection “alive” when they are in the care of your kids!
I will share tons of really effective tools with you both in my upcoming teleseminar. You will know exactly what to say and do. You will have a specific plan to help you ban together as a couple. It will help you understand what that connection means to your child. It will give you a way to restore your most important relationship. It will offer you the opportunity to fill yourselves up, which will assure your best efforts for your children!
I just have one concern…seats are going fast! Get your seats quickly!
Make this important decision to intentionally take time to strengthen your marriage! To nurture your closest relationship. You are important too!
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You Deserve A Break