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Feeling IN Control

1/17/2017

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It kind of feels like CONTROL has become a dirty word. Adoptive & Foster Parents are always afraid to say that they feel like they have no control over their child or over their family's life.

I want to say this loud and clear...It is totally okay to want to feel like you are in control as parent - as a matter of fact your children need you to be. It's your job.

Yes, being controlling can be bad. But being in control of what your children get to do, what rules they will follow, and when things will change means you are protecting them, valuing them and creating situations in which they can be successful.


However, when it comes to adopted & foster children who only feel safe when THEY are the one in control, it's a constant battle to do your job as parent.

Blaming, lying, sneaking, calling names, not listening and so many other behaviors work to push you to lose your self-esteem, your own emotional regulation and even your hope for the future. Little by little it's as if you are losing control over your whole life.

It is time to put an end to that!


The key to feeling in control is to be that safe, unshakeable, no matter what parent your adopted or foster child needs in order to feel REALLY safe.

How do you become that safe, unshakeable, no matter what parent? You must ALWAYS HAVE A PLAN! 


Knowing what to say and do in the moment, creating an emotionally and physically safe place by being able to manage any ocurrance, and meeting your child right where he is and parenting him there all happen when you have a plan.

Healing happens when you have a plan. Your child feels safe when you have a plan.

You feel confident when you have a plan.

You have life IN CONTROL when you have a PLAN!


You need a plan that shows you when, where, and how to take action, a plan that is consistent and doable and yet a plan that is flexible so that you can meet your children where they are at - humans ebb and flow. An action plan combined with a mentor and other parents who get it and support & new insight at your fingertips is going to put YOU back in control again! Then you will see your family begin to THRIVE again.       

Come and join my Intentional Parent Coaching Group and get your plan in place! You are a GREAT MOM and your family needs YOU to be in control.

Here's how it works;
As a member of my Intentional Parent Coaching Group you will have full access to 13 of my top selling classes + archived recordings of my Intentional Parent Coaching Group Trainings
PLUS
  • One one One access to ME (Stacy) every single week with our live Q & A sessions
  • A Live monthly "Training to use TODAY" session
  • A CLOSED Facebook Group of other parents doing what you are doing - no judging and questioning just 24/7 suppor
  • Recordings of everything for the times you can't attend live
  
Now all YOU have to do is CLICK the LINK below and let's get you started on the path to feeling like yourself again and a more peaceful connected family! 
http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-coaching-group.html

Can't wait to see you in the Coaching Group.  
With love and dedication to the health of your family, 
Stacy Manning
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