Happy New Beginning!
I Was Thinking....
One of the most important things this journey has taught me is how important it is to be able to forgive and start over! My New Year's Resolution is to learn how to do just that even better! Forgive myself, forgive my child, forgive those who do not understand and then each time START FRESH...every day, every hour, or every minute if that is what it takes to be a healing force in my child's life! My hope is that you all will join me this year in my resolution and that I can support you in having a more peaceful 2015.
The very nature of what we do requires us to sail in uncharted waters over and over again. Expectations and dreams of what it "should" be like come with us as part of a filter already set. We are bound to make mistakes. We must resolve to forgive ourselves and start over! Our children come to us broken and ill prepared for what we have to offer them and they posses slow-healing wounds that consume them. They are bound to make mistakes. Our support system and society at large want a simple band-aid to heal a life threatening wound. They are simply ignorant and lack experience. They are bound to make mistakes. None of us would believe that loving someone wouldn't be enough!
How do you forgive and start over in the face of so much heartache and disappointment? Well, you need to have a plan of how to do it differently. You need to understand the problem in the first place. It is NOT about throwing yourself in front of the train over and over. It IS about stopping and breathing, understanding the root of the issue, and then creating a new plan of action.
Stopping and stepping out or away from the spin is the first crucial step! It allows us to see more clearly, hear more accurately and use the skills we have to make change! To understand the root of the problem we need to look at the whole picture. We need to be open to the fact that some things can't change...can't heal. Understanding helps us to meet others right where THEY are! Finally, creating the new plan of action takes knowledge and support. The best teachers are those that have lived it! Those that have tried and failed and also tried and succeeded. Those who have been in the trenches and now have hind-sight as the source of their wisdom.
I have decided to kick off this year with a class that deals with the negative daily behaviors that touch us ALL! I call them push back behaviors! You know like lying, stealing, sneaking, spitting, rolling eyes, ignoring, controlling, bopping of the head, aggression, threatening and so many more. These push back behaviors can consume our entire day, our entire life sometimes! Push back behaviors are probably the main source of hardship in our lives and how we handle them is crucial on the journey of healing!
So as you look to begin this new year, this first class will help you make a change in your life! It will allow you to focus on FORGIVING and making it a point to START FRESH with a new plan!
Remember...you are NOT alone!