There's nothing like giving of yourself to help you understand your own worth!
So many of our adopted and foster children struggle with knowing their worth in the world. In an effort to help my kids internalize a positive self-esteem, I focused on teaching them that they are, not only worthy of good things, but able to make a positive impact on the world. That their existence mattered. That their goodness could change the lives of others in a very powerful way, for the better!
One of the most powerful tools I used was VOLUNTEERING!
Volunteer as a FAMILY
-be an example
-give of yourself
-give of your time
-give of your gifts
-give when it isn't convenient
Volunteer in your COMMUNITY
After lots of practice and when the time is right...support your child in beginning to share his gifts with others.
-be the bridge, help him set it up - as many times as it takes
-help find a variety of opportunities - never stop trying
-remind him of what he has to offer - over and over again
-point out the direct impact he is making - as often as possible
-interpret the feelings attached to finding his passions - as long as it takes
Watch, as over the years and THROUGH his many experiences helping others, your child begins to internalize his goodness, his strengths, his passion, and his real power to help others! His VALUE in his world!