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"I Forgot" - A Common Answer From Many Kiddos

9/18/2017

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Does the phrase "I forgot" trigger you? It can't be real, right? It happens all of the time. No one forgets that much! 

Well, the TRUTH of the matter is that it is REAL! Short term memory struggles are definitely an impact of trauma and a result of high anxiety. 

Children who come from where our kids come from carry with them impacts of that trauma. Their Limbic Systems have been "over used" and flooded with brain chemistry that has physically impacted how their brains developed.    

In the moment it helps to think of that area of the brain being like Swiss Cheese. Sometimes the neurons connect, but most of the time they miss each other. There are holes now. When they miss, your child deals with challenges remembering.

Short term memory and the Limbic System don't just deal with remembering the names of things or the order of things. They also help your mind and body to remember what experience or person is safe or not. In addition, they also help you remember so that you can apply what happened yesterday to today.

We are talking DEFICIT NOT DEFIANCE. Not having these abilities is the source of so many triggers. 

Knowing that "I forgot" is real and meeting your child right where he/she is at is where healing happens. Do what you need to do to help your child be successful in these areas and you will feel the shift towards trust, self-confidence, and a more peaceful every day.   

P.S. Not sure how to meet your child where they are at? Join me in my Intentional Parent Coaching Group today. 
http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-coaching-group.html.
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