The other day I overheard a couple of parents talking about their teenagers. One responded with the phrase, “It is what it is.” I bit my lip because I wanted to chime in and say Seriously??
When it comes to our kiddos, we should never take the approach of It Is What It Is.
Yes, there are things that we absolutely cannot change.
We cannot change the fact that some of our kiddos were born to another mother. We cannot change the fact that had a deep loss when they lost their biological family. For some, they lived in orphanages. Some bounced from home to home and family to family in the foster care system. We cannot change their history, their story before they came to us.
BUT…that does not mean that it is what it is. When people take on that attitude, it gives themselves permission to be done trying. To be done finding ways to lessen the impacts that those experiences have had on their kiddos. They believe that they can’t make a difference. That nothing’s going to get better. They give up hope.
And guess what…their kiddos start believing that too.
So...I want to encourage you to avoid the pitfalls of that kind of thinking. It is time to think and speak a very different message. “Things can get better.” “I am going to keep doing whatever I can to help my child.” “I have HOPE.” “I refuse to give up.” “My child deserves me to keep keepin’ on.”
Ready to take that stance with me? Join me in my Intentional Parent Coaching Group where we are not throwing in the towel. Not accepting that things are "this is just the way it is."
We are heading to change. Heading to healing. Heading to a bright future. We are doing whatever we can to help our kiddos.
In my Intentional Parent Coaching Group, here's how we get there:
Your child, your family and you are worth it. Let’s get you the support and tools that are going to make a HUGE difference for your family!
Looking forward to having you JOIN US!