Did You Know...
researchers have linked chronic stress (like the stuff our kids have lived with) to a bunch of cognitive effects, including trouble with attention, concentration and creativity? It is no wonder our kids have a hard time with school!
We see this played out in the student who can't sit still or keep his hands to himself, which eventually creates scenarios where he is either separated from his friends or removed from the class altogether. Or the struggle with math or reading...our kids can't stay on task long enough for those concepts to click in. I know you know what I am talking about!
My daughter used to come home with her worksheets unfinished ALL OF THE TIME. Sometimes there were 3 of 10 answers missing, but lots of times there were 5 or 6 missing. It was so crazy. When I asked her about it, it was as if she had never even realized they were there or that she had skipped them. It became a pattern...I imagined it like an EKG (you know, those strips of jagged lines that show your heart activity) of her concentration while she was doing that assignment. She would answer 2, get distracted, skip a couple, and then come back to do 1 more and then she lost her way again - up, up, down, up, down ,down, etc... The clincher...she almost always knew the answer when I asked her the question. She just couldn't stay on task long enough to get them recorded on the worksheet. Her grades and feedback from the teacher reflected her issue with attention and concentration. NOT good on either account! She got low marks and the teacher received it as defiance.
Trauma, grief, FAS, anxiety, just to name a few, really create road blocks for our children. Not only are there real changes in the way their brain grew and developed, but their ability to feel safe and calm in their own skin is lots of times not there. How can you concentrate, pay attention, keep yourself in check, be creative, be friendly, listen and follow directions and more when you barely feel safe? You CAN'T!
I have found that the families and schools that are the most intentional about meeting their kids right where they are at are absolutely having huge success in overcoming road blocks such as poor attention and concentration. It is about creating an emotionally safe experience. Knowing how your child learns best and implementing that into his day allows him to be successful and not feel vulnerable. Using super effective tweaks and accommodations specifically designed with your child in mind to keep him from being triggered during the day supports him in staying focused and effective. Working with your child's team to ensure that they really get the whole picture so that your child is getting assistance from them that is healing. There is SO much we can do to help our children learn amidst their struggles!
Families tell me time and time again that thinking and acting like an Intentional Parent has been a game changer for their family - especially around schooling! Whether your child goes to public school or is home schooled, whether your child shines at school or is the "trouble-maker", whether he has a hard time making friends or is the center of everyone's attention or whether he can't get math, but can build incredible things out of Legos...meeting him right where he is at will create successful emotional experiences for him and you WILL see positive progress!
I want to teach you how to get different results than you have in the past...I want to teach you how to help your child have his best year yet! You ALL deserve that!
I have put together new research, effective tools and techniques that work to keep anxiety and triggers under control, powerful I.E.P. and accommodation suggestions, the pluses and minuses of homeschooling, words and ideas to help you create an effective team, steps to help your child improve his self-esteem and make friends, and SO much more so that you can really help your child succeed!
OOH, I HEAR YOUR EYES ROLLING BACK IN YOUR HEAD (wink, wink)...I totally get it, I have been there. You are thinking, Stacy, I have tried everything and nothing changes...I am exhausted and overwhelmed and I just don't think I can or want to do it! Here's the thing, that mindset is only going to make things worse because your child is responding to where you are, he's responding to the hope you have for the situation. If you don't have any, neither does he - without hope for change and a better life, they quit! Behavior gets worse, no self worth, anxiety depression, lying, stealing, and on and on! This is part of the job you were meant to have (parent) and you CAN do this and I am here to help you make it work!
In my upcoming 4-part workshop series Your Child's BEST School Year Yet, you will work with me along with two other schooling experts to craft a unique action plan that will create an emotionally safe learning "place" for your child. You will have effective tools and techniques that will help your child be able to pay attention and concentrate better which will help with things like math struggles. Strategies and hands-on tools that will decrease the really hard stuff like talking back, mouthing off and general disrespectful behaviors. Your action plan will include specific powerful additions to be added to an IEP or 504 and tons of ways to make accommodations at home that will ensure success. And SO much more!
Stop questioning whether or not things can actually get better and make it happen! Choosing to go for it and "fight" for it speaks volumes to EVERYONE around you. You CAN do this!
Just imagine it...a calmer happier school year - that is good for your entire family!
Just know...I am keeping this small on purpose. I want to be able to work with each family to ensure they have a really effective action plan when the class is over! At this time there are 7 spots remaining!
Get Registered today so you don't lose your spot by clicking on the link below! http://www.tohavehope.com/intentional-parent-master-series.html
-I have priced this session to be really affordable! (less than my normal per class fee)
-You get the recordings of the class if you can't be on live.
-You also get the recording of 2 of my best selling classes as a GIFT from Me to YOU!
Dealing With The Daily Grind: Eating, Sleeping and Bathrooming & The Power of Hope
AND just added today-- A FREE Follow Up Q and A Session on October 19th
I am REALLY looking forward to seeing you in class!
Remember...you are NOT alone,
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