Sometimes the Real World Gets It

The truth is I am a little behind on my movie watching, but I still want to tell you about this one! Black or White starring Kevin Costner and Octavia Spencer. 

While this December 2014 release was billed as a film dealing with race issues, I really thought they did a great job with some of the issues we deal with as kinship carers, adoptive, foster and step parents. Along with that, the writers, directors and actors did a great job dealing with issues we deal with as parents of kids who have suffered the loss of their primary attachment figure and the struggles our kids have to face in regards to loyalty and fitting in.   

The top 4 concepts I thought they handled pretty well:

1. The struggles of aging kinship carers
   
2. The loss of the relationship with the biological child that many times is the precursor for the kinship situation
   
3. The confusion some of our kids suffer with in regards to loyalty and stability
   
4. The negative impact, that those in the outside world who don't have a relationship with our kids, can create without even knowing it

WE don't often get to see our lives depicted in a positive much less accurate manner, but somebody in the making of this film did some homework! No, it is not perfect nor does it run very deep. The reality is that our story is the side story, but they didn't do too bad! 

So, as you make your plan to take care of yourself this weekend...put this movie on your list! I would suggest pre-screening it for your teens to be sure they can handle it. I think this one is a good PARENT feel-good film! 

I really liked it - Let me know what you think!