I know sometimes it seems like your partner has changed or your relationship is not the same. I know that lots of days you are at a loss as to how to even parent your child much less support your spouse in doing so.
First, you have to know you are not alone! We struggled, as do many adoptive and foster parents, to be “on the same page” when it came to making hard parenting decisions in regards to our hurt children. The struggle put stress on our marriage and created a disconnect between us. I hear these same issues from parents all over the world as well! The job we are doing is an important one, but it is also a very difficult one!
Second, you have to know it doesn’t have to be this way and in fact, when you change it your child’s behaviors and healing will be positively affected as well! The reality is it is a vicious circle. You, as parents, are struggling and then your child senses it and is afraid and grapples for more control and so on!
It Is Time To Make A Change and I CAN TEACH YOU HOW!
This is about looking at attachment, but even deeper and from a different angle than you already have. No one teaches us this stuff!
This is about the quality of the attachment! This is about how trauma impacts attachment! This is CRUCIAL stuff that will absolutely change how you understand your spouse, your child, and as a matter of fact all of your relationships!
It will help you know what to say and do. It will help you to appreciate WHY he/she does things the way he/she does them. It will explain the hard behavior. It will make it clear how to support your spouse. It will give you a way to restore your most important relationship.
It will ultimately change your every day!
Make this important decision to intentionally take time to strengthen your marriage! To nurture your closest relationships. To Make a Change!
Attachment & Connectedness