I was thinking the other day about our long journey. How so many things have changed. Life has gotten so much easier and so much more peaceful. It is not without hurdles, but healing has really happened! I was thinking about the crucial ingredients to these past 15 years of healing. One of the most important ingredients is the whole concept of proving to our daughters that we will stay in it no matter what and for as long as it takes. They (most of the time now) finally can believe that they are worthy, that we are here for always and no matter what, and that nothing is going to change. That belief is not just in their head, but also at their core!
Fifteen years is a LONG time. And it isn't over - there's still more work to be done!
SO the real question is how do you Keep On Keepin' On? The answer is - SUPPORT!
At the beginning, we really had none! Our friends didn't get it, they moved on. Our families thought we were nuts, they moved back! Doctors and other professionals could not support us because they did not understand the implications of trauma. Our church family tried, but didn't have the tools.
I know what it is like to FEEL ALONE in all of this!
I finally started support groups through our adoption agency and even though I was the leader, it was very healing to be a part of it myself. I started seeking out educational workshops being taught especially by professionals who also had adopted children. I dug until I found people I could talk to that were living it. It made me feel LESS CRAZY, MORE IN CONTROL of my own life and LIKE THERE WAS HOPE!
I UNDERSTOOD the value of support so I went on to lead support groups for 12 of our 15 years and the power of support in these groups is amazing! Moms and Dads fighting to preserve their families, to help their children heal, to keep their marriages together...to live a peaceful life full of love and contentment - WOW. They shared empathy and understanding with others and got filled up themselves. I learned that POWERFUL ingredients of a support system include being able to share your struggles, education, tools that work, and people who get it to cheer you on! They came feeling lost and left feeling empowered, understood and armed with a plan!
That kind of support is inspiring! It is my life's passion to offer that kind of support to Adoptive, Foster and Kinship Parents however and whereever I can! I really believe that is why I am on the planet!
Helping other families achieve what we have is my goal!
So, I have created many ways to reach out to families. My support groups, Facebook, my book, Adoptive Parent Intentional Parent, my classes and NOW my Inner Circle. My Inner Circle has proven to be the most effective tool I have developed so far. Why? -----We get to check in on a consistent basis. It's specific to your family's needs. It offers a safe place for you to share your story. It is packed full of training and tools that work. And you are surrounded by people that get it, who will cheer you on 24/7 if you need it!
I want to be there for you. I know it is hard to find the time or hard to find the money and I have given it a lot of thought and have come up with a plan that makes it SO easy and affordable that you will absolutely be able to make it happen for your family!
Surround yourself with support...the change in your life will blow you away! It is a monthly membership that you can cancel at any time! You have NOTHING to LOSE and EVERYTHING to GAIN!
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