The above saying has been repeating over and over in my head now for the past couple of weeks. It is EXACTLY what we have to remember as Intentional Parents.
There is so much truth to these words. Getting clear on our vision and trusting the process is what leads to the end we had in mind when this all began.
The vision is...Healing!
The process is...Time and Consistency!
It is so challenging to keep our focus on this journey sometimes. Hurtful behaviors and words can seem so personal. The pain and constant struggle can color our parenting experience, our daily life. Many times, the sheer exhaustion in which we operate leads to a fuzzy existence. So many times parents lose sight of the vision that started them on the path of adopting or fostering and that vision morphs into one that consists of expectations the child could never meet. So many times parents want to quit or question if they are the right people for the job. Healing is then in question.
RECLAIM your original vision! Don't let it be colored by the outcomes of deficits and loss. Hold onto your hope!
RECOMMIT to for as long as it takes and No Matter What. Don't get caught in the trap of, "He should be fine by now." Don't be pushed back or question. Remember, YOU are your child's best chance at healing!
We will be coming up on 15 years home later this fall and I can tell you...these are words to live by!