As we strive to be Intentional Parents, it is important that we understand that humans have an inner clock or rhythm that is affected by both internal and external stimuli. When a child experiences a traumatic event, the cycle is impacted!
Here's what that means for YOU! As you consider your whole child, you have to consider his internal clock. If he is having a particularly hard time or if he has regressed in some way, don't forget to consider his life anniversaries.
When trying to help a parent identify their child's trigger, I begin with one question...is this the anniversary of any of his major life events? This month? This season? This kind of weather? It helps to know as much of your child's story as possible, but sometimes it doesn't take much. Is this the month he was taken out of the home? Is this the anniversary of the date he went to the orphanage? You would be AMAZED at the number of times a parent looks it up and it is exactly that date (most of the time it is within a 3-4 week period of time). They are always stunned!
Go back...re-read documents, remind yourself of your child's story and make correlations to dates and seasons.
See your whole child! Meet your child where he is...anniversaries and all!